Ask God to search your heart and show you if you have spoken one word of gossip, hatefulness, or unkindness the past two days. Confess this even if you feel the person deserved it. Go to the person to whom you spoke those words and apologize with no excuses. If you do this every time you speak an unwholesome word, you will find yourself speaking offensive words less and less.
Ask God to show you someone who needs a word of praise at least once today. Jesus gave us examples of speaking words of praise. He said of Nathaniel: “Here comes an honest man.” (John 1:47) When he called Peter a rock, this was a positive picture of strength and stability. (John 1:42)
Scatter seeds of praise in the hearts of those you love.
Add God to your praise list. In fact, start with God. Speak words of praise to Him for His faithfulness, sovereignty, righteousness, wisdom, holiness, glory, goodness, graciousness, guidance, justice, long-suffering, purity, omnipotence, omnipresence, omniscience, love, mercy, provision, protection, peace, counsel, power, greatness, hope.
Turn Scripture into a Personal Prayer: And they were calling to one another:
“Holy, holy, holy is the Lord Almighty; the whole earth is full of his glory.” Isaiah 6:3
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Ephesians 4:29-30
I first want to give YOU praise! You are a holy God. Holy, holy, holy is the Lord God Almighty; the whole earth is full of Your glory. I want the words that I speak to be holy words, filled with Your grace and glory. Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of my mouth. Cleanse my heart and mind so that no unwholesome thoughts will fester there and come out in conversation. Please nudge me to hold my tongue when my mouth begins to speak harmful words. I know that You are grieved when I say hurtful things to one of Your cherished children. I want the words I speak to be full of grace and to benefit the hearer. May my words bring honor and blessing. Amen1
1Patsy Lewis. Simply Praying (Kansas City, Missouri: Beacon Hill Press of Kansas City, 2006), 169-171.